I am a 40 year old women, happily married for the last 15 years, with (5) children.  My oldest daughter just turned 18, and she is not the biological daughter of my husband.  He adopted her when she was three.  We started dating when she was 1 and a half.

 

I was engaged in college to my high school boyfriend, due to continuous cheating, we broke-up.  About a month after we broke-up, I was the victim of date rape with someone in my study group.  About 2 months later, I found out that I was pregnant.

 

Once the word got out that I was pregnant, my ex-fiancee assumed that he was the father.  We did not have any contact.  The guy from my study group, offered me money to abort the baby.  I tried to abort it, but was unable to do it.  So, I decided to have the baby on my own.  When the baby was born, my family contacted my ex-fiancee, who still lived in my home town.  He visited me after the baby and I left the hospital, but I never told him that it was his child, and I did not put his name on the birth certificate.  after I graduated from college, I moved away with my daughter.

 

A few weeks ago, I received a very disturbing phone call from my ex-fiancee.  He was convinced that my daughter was his child, and he was insisting on meeting her.   I explained to him that he was not her father, not to mention that she was legally adopted by my husband over 15 years ago, and her natural father ( the study group guy) had terminated his parental rights to allow the adoption.  He had never been told about the rape, and assumed that I was lying.  He is still insisting on disturbing our family life and demanding a paternity test.  I am very upset.  I have not seen or talked to this guy in over 15 years.  He has never given me one dime or attempted to contact me.  I have seen his parents a few times when I went home, but I usually visited with all my children, as they have known me since I was 5 years old.

 

Am I wrong for refusing to give him a paternity test?  I am not afraid of the results, I'm just insulted that he would demand something from me after 18 years.  Help!!